Hello Ladies! 

Being the New Year and that we have so many new Sister DIL's I wanted to just post some reminders.

1. This is a place for venting not advertising. To advertise please contact us through the contact link at the top of the page to do so. If you advertise threw comments your account will be deleted.
2. We would like everyone to remember to please use our manners. We are all adults here and we hope we can all continue to act as so. 
3. Please remember if you are posting asking for advice you will receive it. You may not like all the advice you get and thats ok. We have a large sisterhood here, 2,142 to be exact, But that is going to be 2,142 different personalties and opinions. Some are very good with words while others are not. Some soft, some hard. I think you all get the drift.  What I am trying to say is that you're not going to like it all, so don't use the advice that you don't like. Skip over it. Its your right as the poster to do that. Its your right as a person to do that. You have your MIL, and some of you your DH's even, telling you how your suppose to act and how you can and cannot feel.  We are not here to do that as well.The wonders of the internet is no one is forcing you, or guilting you into listening or speaking to any one person. 
4. With that being said lets remember when posting a comment that we are responding to someone who was most likely in an emotional state while post. Let it be upset, angry, depressed, or even maybe scared, lets try to be compassionate to that. 
5. Everyone has the right to their opinions here. Give your opinion and except others as well. 
6. We have many different religions here as well. Some who can state passages from their holy book with out a blink of an eye and some that can not. We may even have some that believe in nothing at all.  Once again it comes down to that be your own right. I allowed a post to go through the other day that I guess caused a little bit of an uproar because it had a religion base. Now the poster found that was a good coping skill for her. It then opened a very interesting debate that started going in a very smooth direction then took a fast swoop downhill. At first I really question why I allowed it to go through. In any group of people religion and politics should be left out. I closed the post down while I thought more about it and how to address the situation. Well I reopened it. There was a lot of good advice posted in it and it may have giving some of our DIL's a new way to look at things. Not exactly a change of religion but some of the scripts were broken down in to what I like to call "dumdafied" terms (that's what I ask Dr's to do for me "Can you dumdafied that please?") and may have had some DIL's thinking "HMMM I could look at it that way I guess"  But After that post I will no longer post ones that have to much religion base to them. I feel that it may cause harsh feelings between some of our members and I would really like to avoid that at all cost!
7. Being that we did have some issues with a member recently not understanding our sisters full story I would like you all to know that was addressed although I have a feeling she didnt read her email =(  This is my confession time. I have to say that when Patricia first asked me to help out I started with a very closed mind. (Please hear me out to the end) I kept thinking this is a bunch of grown women not getting their way. And some were! Lets remember Mrs. New York with her MIL stealing her clothes. (Our older member's may remember her) I have been very open that I have a wonderful relationship with my InLaws. Hell Patricia is my SIL. I am one who looks at the world through rose colored glasses. BUT  I started really reading some of your post. Those (not so much me any more) that do feel that way need to READ your post and open their eyes to what your MILs have put you through. Its Horrible!  I have on many occasions wondered why so many of you have not run for the hills yet! I give each one of you so much credit for sticking around and continuing to try while the whole time you're having to stick up for yourselves and defend your families. My thoughts are with you all everyday that you can have one extra day spared of the pain that these women spitefully cause to your lives. If you are here feeling that our DILs are just not trying and complaining then Please read their stories. All of them. Try to put yourself in their shoes. Read all of the things they have tried to do to if nothing else make it civil at need be family gatherings. Read the extremes some of these women have been pushed to. Then see if you feel that you can still post that they are just not trying. I can almost promise you you'll think twice at hitting that post button. 

Ok my Rant is over! Hope you are all having a Peaceful start to the New Year!